Damage caused by shame: report on giving up and adoption

The Commissie Binnenlandse Afstand en Adoptie (CBAA) examined the impact of giving up and adoption on parents, children and other stakeholders in the period 1956-1984. Atria was commissioned by the committee to research the personal experiences of relinquishing parents, relinquished children, foster and adoptive parents and close ones. The report was presented to the Dutch State Secretary for Legal Protection Teun Struycken on 19 June 2025.

Between 1956 and 1984, an estimated 13,000 or 14,000 unmarried pregnant girls and women in the Netherlands came under severe social pressure to give up their newborn child. This pressure came not only from their immediate environment - parents, family and social workers - but was also fuelled by then prevailing norms around decency and the fear of social or economic consequences.

Key recommendations

The report, commissioned by the Ministry of Justice and Security and launched in late 2022 under the direction of Micha de Winter, contains a number of recommendations. The conclusions are based on three sub-studies conducted by the International Institute of Social History (IISG), Maastricht University and Atria.

  • Expert help and care: promote expertise of aid and care workers and those in training to do so

  • Support in opening lines to biological family and own history: organise assistance in searching for parentage information

  • Control over own family life: give parents and children as much voice as possible in decisions about their family life

  • Authority over own sexuality: actively encourage sex education programmes in education

  • Harm from shame: do not judge

  • Sustainable recognition: include the topic of domestic relinquishment and adoption in the Canon of the Netherlands

Deep traces

Atria examined people's personal experiences of domestic remoteness and adoption in Diepe Sporen (Deep Traces) sub-study. This focuses on the meaning these experiences had for them, both at the time and in later periods. It included oral-history interviews with:

  • women who relinquished a child

  • men from whom a child was relinquished

  • people who were relinquished as children and grew up with adoptive parents or in another situation

  • people who raised one or more relinquished children

  • and people who were affected in their immediate environment

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Date
20 June 2025
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